Inner Personal Advice: July 2012

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Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Some inspirational images



Hello everyone

just posting some inspiration for you all to keep positive and keep your strength!


Have a great day everyone and I hope your weekend ahead is filled with happiness and peace!

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Sunday, July 22, 2012

Ex's and New relationships...

Hello everyone
This has been going through my mind lately, I have had times where I have seen friends or even family members go on and on about their ex's. I have also seen them do this while in arguments with their new relationships.

What I'd like to say is this, "If you bring up your ex and do not share a child with them, it is not a healthy thing to talk about for your relationship in general".

I'm no expert at relationships, but I do know, when a new relationship starts, I personally do not want to hear about the ex's, I don't talk about my ex's. I would however like to point out that, when you have a child with an ex, it might be more acceptable if they might happen to be discussed, but only when you have a child with that ex, as it is just inevitable. But if you have any ex's that you don't have children with, speaking about them can ruin your chances of that new relationships survival.

Personally, I don't like it when I get compared (whether positive or negative) to an ex. It just feels wrong, it's a total turn off and feels like it's only a means of smooth talking/flattery that I do not like to know. Here is an example, I don't want to be told my so and so body part is so much better than your ex's body part. I am feeling judged, not impressed or feeling at all confident that you like me or my body part better!

I'd also like to add that if ex's are going to be discussed, let the other bring it up, if you want to talk about it, you will. For me it is undesirable to bring ex's up, unless they want to talk about your past relationships...Is it a smart move? If that relationship has ended, isn't it meant to stay in the past?

Here are the reasons why I don't think it's a smart move to discuss ex's in new relationships.
No one likes to be compared to anyone else, because it feels judgmental, like you're not over that ex(s), as if you have to compete with someone that shouldn't even be discussed, that you're not good enough, that you need to do better than the ex in order to not hear about them anymore. Worse of all we think, that you're not over them. I hope I have explained this all right, and so others can understand it well enough.

I'd like to point out, if you have a miscommunication with an ex, and they don't know about the new relationship and have tried to communicate with you because you just come and go in their life and they need answers or even closure. I don't feel that ex should be to blame for any future relationship problems. It's not fair to leave someone in the dark, or hanging on for nothing if you're not going to call them back or even see them again. Keeping a person on a string as a means of a "back up plan" is unfair, wrong and just harder for them to trust or even forgive you (or anyone else for that matter) for it. If they care, it's very heartbreaking to find out you've found someone new, and even worse if you are still leading them on...And your idea of closure is to let them see you with someone else...when you didn't say anything.

But than again there are those crazy ex's who show up at your door screaming at you and looking psychotically at the new girl/guy. Those ex's you just can't ignore discussing in a new relationship. Those are the kinds that need the law to keep them away (if it works), and if your new relationship is meant to last, they will be understanding of the psycho path who just is so obsessed that they can't think of or do anything else...until of course someone they feel is better comes a long(for your sake lets hope so!) and then they leave you alone. Word of advice, be sure you warn your new girl/guy of that ex right away!

There are just so many reason why we should not bring up ex's. This was just to name a few. I feel I was maybe programed to know this stuff or just acquired this information over time. Either way, it feels programmed into my brain to know that discussing ex's isn't healthy for a new relationship.

Yes there is some personally added feelings here so others can understand a bit better, there are also personally added parts of what I have seen others experience in there too. Please do not judge nor assume what parts are personal.

Thanks for reading and have a great week!
AnnJ
"Think before you speak"

Monday, July 16, 2012

A wonderful start of the day! Monday's Gladness!

Hello everyone!
Today was a great day so far, I slept in a little. And than I went for an appointment that concerns life and my love for the Arts! 

Here is link to the place I went to today, and it looks promising for a future choice. My concerns are only about finances! With that being the only concern in my life, I have to admit, it's not so big of a negative in the situation for my life.

I'm pretty excited, they showed me around, they explained how everything is done, they explained the processes as well as the training and that everything starts from the bottom up. So everything is taking you "One step at a time"! This is awesome, the last words my dad (may he rest in peace <3 ) ever said to me before his passing was "Take it One step at a time", so what's that say to me? Maybe it's a sign? Either way, I am glad I went for the tour and as of right now, the door is looking wide open to me when it comes to future schooling/career choices!

When your heart is telling you something...it's not a voice you can just ignore! I'm listening, and I am hearing so much...More than I realized, I can hear it! I can "feel" it, and I am just a short distance away from it. :)

So it's going to be a busy week, of thinking, exploring my next choices and moves, and best of all, my future for my child and myself.

I hope your week has been off to a great start everyone!

AnnJ


PS- Here are some great inspirational quotes to get your week started positively!


“The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score.” - Bill Copeland

“It is never too late to be what you might have been.” - George Eliot

 “All our dreams can come true – if we have the courage to pursue them.” - Walt Disney

“Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.” - Eleanor Roosevelt

”An eye for eye only ends up making the whole world blind.” - M.K. Gandhi

”It’s not whether you get knocked down, it’s whether you get up.” - Vince Lombardi    


Sunday, July 15, 2012

Summer fun and beach time! My child.

Hi everyone, I know I said I would post about my boy yesterday, but I was a bit upset...as you can probably tell from my last blog post.

So here we are I have a few pictures to share, of my child and his fun times at the beach!
 This was his first time with the floating device. As you can see, not wet yet lol
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 relaxing and enjoying his floating device :)

A few days later, he got out because he was getting cold...about 10 mins later he jumped back in again! 

I was in too, but I we didn't have anyone we knew around to take the pictures for us together. So I took this close up while standing in the water, put my camera back and swam with him! We had a lot of fun at the beach!

Hope your weekend was great
AnnJ





Saturday, July 14, 2012

Saturdays sadness...Sorry being dramatic today.

Hello all,
I'm just going to vent today, sorry I'm seeming like a drama queen here.
I've been hurt in the past, sexually abused as a child(By family members no less), bullied at school as well by family members.
But I forgave, it's not easy to forget. I've put people out of my life, and I have stuck up for myself when I knew no one else would. I have spoke my mind to show I wouldn't back down to their hurt and lies.

But you know, it's not easy "pretending" like it doesn't hurt me. I may throw back words to defend myself, but it doesn't mean I'm not hurt...It's a defense mechanism, that has been strengthened over time.

In time, I only wish for my life to stay getting better and for happiness to find me safe and sound.
Blessings everyone.

AnnJ

Friday, July 13, 2012

Well it's Friday the 13th! Are you happy, superstitious or scared?

Friday the 13th!
Friday the 13th is considered an unlucky day!
What's your thoughts on it? 
Has it always been unlucky for you? Has it been lucky? Is it just another day? 
Do you like it, and does the fact that some people find it a scary day and don't go anywhere make you like it even more? Do you think it's foolish to be afraid of Friday the 13th? 

I'm gonna share my fur-babies for today, so you can know me and my pets. No worries, I plan to post a bit about my boy tomorrow! I'll make a whole post of it, being all about him!
Here's my beautiful kitties!
 These are my kitties! The one above is Fable(my son's cat), they are both very different cats, one is an indoor sookie(Fable) who has the smallest meow for a full grown cat, he sounds a lot like a kitten still, and the other one is an outdoor loving cat(Prometheus, my gorgeous and he loves being called it too) who follows me around like a dog, sometimes when he meows it sounds like he is crying "mom" and sometimes it sounds like he is a squeak toy! lol
 I hope you're not superstitious about Friday the 13th, as it is just another day! I am a little superstitious, but this day is not one of them lol.
I hope your weekend goes well and you don't have any bad luck! 
Blessings to you all!
AnnJ

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Where I have been...Beach, swims and enjoying the summer!

I figured, last summer was wasted a lot; mostly in doors, when I really wanted to be out in the air, as well as out and about. I know the summer holds so much activities and you can just do so much!

They have summer festivities in the main city area, there are beaches on every corner as well as in the center of it all! There is just so much to do and so much energy and excitement that I don't want to be stuck inside! I did that last summer and regretted not going to the beach, swimming, tanning and having my child enjoy himself with other kids he meets at the beach! He has been enjoying himself and THAT GIVES ME JOY WITHIN!

I'm almost back to my body before having any babies, so it is a bit of a confidence boost! I was last year too, but I wasted a lot of time INSIDE, when I wanted to be out and about! I mean, I don't really regret some of last summer, but I never did much. I was seeing someone, but we didn't go anywhere! We stayed cooped up in a very hot and hard to breath environment... "I hated it really."

This summer, there is just me and my boy and we are having a not so bad summer so far. I even am getting some tanning done, and last year I didn't wear anything to reveal too much skin so...there was a lot that needed some color lol I was starting to look pasty and whiter than white.

Anyways I just wanted to let you all know what I have been doing and where I have been! Sometimes I wish we had some friends to be there with us.

Have a great day everyone and I hope your week has been filled with blessings of love and happiness...as well as FUN and EXCITEMENT!


"Tuesday's Rant!" ..About the different kinds of friendships out there....sad but true!

"Tuesday's Rant!"

Different kinds of friendships out there....sad but true!

I have had many types of friends come and go in my life, great ones I could do almost anything with, and some that you come to know as liars and cheats as well as those who will take from you and expect it to be okay. There are ones who will pretend to be your best friend and they will go behind your back and talk bad about you...Even though you've said nothing but nice things about them and done nice things for them. Two faced people are what I am referring to! 

Please don't get me wrong, sometimes we have a friend who will say your life story to others without realizing how damaging it is to you until they lose you as a friend and can't seem to understand why, and you're so upset with them that you can't tell them and just keep silent. These are good friends with hearts of gold, but at the same time, it's hard to trust what to say to them about your personal life. 

Than there's those friends you can do almost anything with (or anything if you're wild and free spirited :-D), you can trust they have your back if trouble seems to creep up uninvited! They'll pretend your their sister/brother to prove to someone else that you're never alone! You can drink shots and walk miles to get home without worrying they'll abandon you for some hot guy/chick! And best of all, on that long walk home, if you're too drunk to walk, they will let you lean on them! LOL

But than there are those two faced ones I was talking about, who will ask you about your personal life; just so they can tell others about it later, and possibly fabricate it and make it a whole lot more than what it was! 

Some people will become your friend, just so they can have something to gossip about, some will be your friends, in order to be come cool or popular because they don't know who they are. And some will simply be your friend so they can have someone they know who will always be there, because you have a big heart and wont turn away.

And sadly, some will be your friend because they know you have more than them and just try to take all you have from you! I have had friends who have had more than me, steal all I had in my purse! I have had friends jealous of me (for whatever reason I am not sure, still, even to this day), who will do and say things about me just to make others dislike me and not want to even give us a chance at getting to know each other! Some people can be so jealous, they will and do make up lies about you, just because they are jealous and they hate you for it and they want to ruin you! 

It's hard, but we must avoid some people...

"With friends like those who need enemies?"

But as I said, don't get me wrong, there are some really awesome people to be friends with out there...And those types of friends, can become friends for life (or eternity)...


Wednesday, July 4, 2012

My reviews blog...And HAPPY INDEPENDENCE DAY!

Well I haven't really been adding any new stuff to my reviews blog lately and I think I might delete a lot and try to start off fresh as I feel maybe it has TOO much products and companies on the go and maybe I should tone it down on how many companies I have there.

If you haven't checked it out yet you can find it HERE or by copy and pasting this link into your browsers address bar: http://annsproductreviews.blogspot.ca/ . I'd like others to maybe review my review blog and let me know what one you truly like the most, and in about a months time perhaps I will have enough replies here in order to know what ones to keep and what ones to delete!

I really look forward to comments and feedback on my blogs so I know what my viewers are liking most about my stuff.

Have a great weekend coming up and I hope all you American friends of mine had and have a wonderful 4th of July! <3

AnnJ

Monday, July 2, 2012

Monday Madness...Quotes to inspire you to help anger management!

Quotes to inspire you to help anger management!



Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. 
Buddha.


For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind. 
Ralph Waldo Emerson.
 

Anger, if not restrained, is frequently more hurtful to us than the injury that provokes it. 
Seneca.


People who fly into a rage always make a bad landing. 
Will Rogers.
 

If you find yourself in a hole, stop digging. 
Will Rogers.


Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret. 
Ambrose Bierce.



all quotes can be found HERE  or copy and paste this link to get there : http://compassionpower.com/angermanagementquotes.php
This book might interest you!



I hope everyone has a wonderful week!

AnnJ

PS- Lets try to help and teach others to turn "Negatives into Positives!" for a better more peaceful future!

Bless you all 

Sunday, July 1, 2012